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A is a man who chooses to go faraway from his loved ones for a better career option.
B is a man who chooses to leave a nice job to be with his partner, who has got a great job offer in a new place.
C is a woman who chooses to go faraway from her loved ones for a better career option.
D is a woman who chooses to leave a nice job to be with her partner, who has got a great job offer in a new place.

A is called a serious, career-driven, successful man.
B is called a spineless, joru ka ghulam (slave of wife).
C is called self-centered, heartless woman.
D is called caring, sacrificing woman.

Why these discriminations?

My friend has been kidnapped by an alien!

No, of course not literally but I feel the same.

My close friend (let's call her N) and I always made fun of people who are mushy, gushy about their love life/partners. We bitched about these people for hours and took pride in the fact that we were cold and heartless. Then she fell in love last year and suddenly she is doing the same irritating things and much more!!! Was it all an act of 'sour grapes' then? I feel betrayed.

Talking about my being cold and heartless, my boyfriend (let's call him J) had a dream last night that I have dumped him for someone else and he is very sad (he amazed himself with this feeling) and then what made him more miserable than actually being dumped was that I was telling him very casually "What's the big deal? Don't be a sissy. Get over it." ha ha...now that sounds more real to me than N's new Orkut photo (I wish I could post it here to prove my case).

Coming to analysis of the dream: I blame it on the big hype called Valentine's day. Everyone in J's office (including his 50+ boss) left early to celebrate V-day and his girlfriend didn't even call him all day to wish him and was almost falling asleep when he made his usual 'how was your day' call (I live 3 time zones ahead of him and it was much past mid-night my time..can you really blame me?). J is usually as romantically-challenged as me, if not more but I guess all the pressure created by this specially designated romance day can affect such people too. I am just thankful that the effect on him is not as drastic as on N.

Yaaaaaay...Happy snow day!!

Snow and rain on the same day = messy, slippery roads..and when you have to go to work on such a day, it becomes a really painful day. It is one such day here today. I came to work slipping and sliding 20 times on my way and was really worried about my return journey because today is the day when I teach from 3-9 p.m. But guess what, they just announced that all classes after 3p.m. are canceled!!!!....so now it becomes a happy snow day for me......yaaaaaaaay. Now I can go home and enjoy the snow from by window while drinking a cup of steaming hot chocolate....aaaahh. I am probably happier than my students for the canceled classes :D

The mind of the married man

I have been watching the DVD of this old HBO series called 'The mind of the married man'. It is like a male, married version of 'Sex and the city'. It is funny and smart and at the same time quite informative for us women! I mean it's no secret that most men have not evolved much since their days as cavemen and they have only three things on mind: work, food and sex and that marriage is like a life imprisonment to them. The things that this show reveals is how clueless they are most of the times about their own feelings, not to mention about their emotional, romantic and much evolved partner's feelings and how much effort they have to put in to keep up with the women in their lives (be it wife or the cute/hot colleague). The sad part is that they still fail..each and everyday and to rectify that they keep doing more and more mistakes making things worse. Maybe we need to start thinking in more simple terms to help these poor souls :)
The show also revealed some scary thoughts that men have (at least all the one on the show had). I am not talking about the usual fantasies of other women but things like having something called a 'free-pass dream' when the wife is too much to handle. In this dream they think of a quick, painless (because they actually love their wife) way by which the wife meets an accident and die(!!!!!!!!!) and they get their freedom back, get lots of money (insurance or such) plus a sob story to impress other women!!! Maybe I should ask my boyfriend if he already has one of those..or maybe I should stop watching this show..too much information might complicate things even more..he he.

Craving for heroism

Last evening I met my personal hero. Here's what happened:

I was really bored waiting for my adviser to show up for our late Friday afternoon lab meeting. To stay awake I thought I can use some sugar in my system and so I went to get a Snickers bar from the vending machine. I put the money, my change came back but the chocolate bar got stuck halfway. Slapping and hitting the machine couple of times didn't move it an inch and so I started leaving the place mourning my loss of 75 cents. At the very moment, a guy appeared from nowhere to get a cup of coffee from the next machine and he jumped in to get me my chocolate (I didn't even ask him to!). First he slapped, hit, rocked the machine..nothing happened..then he tried putting his arm inside the machine almost lying down on the dirty floor (I was scared that he might break his hand)..still nothing..then he pulled out a key chain with all kinds of tools on it (now I was very scared that he might break the machine and police will put both of us in jail)..but after almost 5 minutes of struggling on his hands and knees, he got up with my 75 cents chocolate bar in hand, offered it to me with a victorious smile and said "I can be really persistent". I felt soooo flattered :P

Even though we, today's women take pride in being strong and self-dependent and most of the times get annoyed if men around us try to be protective but maybe somewhere deep down we still like to be saved by an occasional knight in shinning armor :D

An eventful week

After my last guilty post, I worked a lot but sadly, after doing a loooong and hectic experiment, I was rewarded with a very unexpected result :( First I freaked-out, then started having doubts about how I will finish my dissertation by summer if things go wrong like this. This thought led to fitful sleeping with nightmares, whining and scaring parents, boyfriend and best friend..scared adviser and lab-mate too to some extent (to the outer world I usually pretend to be a completely unbreakable person :P ). But then after some major reading and brainstorming...eureka!! I found an explanation to the weird result..it might not be weird actually..everything in science has a reason :) Now I have to run one more test this week to get a nice result avoiding the unwanted part. Please, please, please let next week be a positively productive week!!!!!!

This is me!!!!

It's 5.10 p.m. and I have not done anything productive all day (my day started at 11 a.m. as today is Saturday)! I am supposed to study and finalize a protocol for a new experiment that I have to start next week. I also need to cook and clean today. I better get going...

Beginning of a new experiment..

Random thoughts, weird thoughts, meaningless thoughts, unnecessary thoughts...my small brain is getting too crowded. I need a Pensieve like Dumbledore! A blog spot might do for now. Let's see.